Forgiveness is the bridge to love

Lack of forgiveness causes almost all of our self-sabotaging behaviour.

~ Mark Victor Hansen ~

Twelve years ago, when I was released from a relationship that almost killed me by the police walking in and arresting the abuser, one of the greatest challenges I faced was to forgive myself.

“You have nothing to forgive yourself for,” well-meaning people would tell me. “He was a psychopath. He abused you.”

Finding Value in All Things

Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.

~ John Lennon ~

We all make them. Plans.

Plans on what to do on holidays. Plans for the New Year. Plans for the future. For the weekend. For leisure time, our children, our lives and work.

This past Christmas, I took the entire week between Christmas and the first week of January off. And made lots of plans for how I would fill my 17 days of down time.

Our human condition is a journey through Love.

People carry their secrets in hidden places, not on their faces. They carry suffering on their faces. Also bitterness if there’s room.

~ Steve Toltz, A Fraction of the Whole ~

Change is possible

The biggest obstacle to change is that we think we already know the answer.

~ Joe Davis ~

Choices Seminars is about change. It’s about changing the things in your life that aren’t working. It’s about healing the wounds that continue to seep and drain your passion and commitment to living your best life yet.

In the light of today, there is no past

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.

~ Frederick Douglass ~

At Choices, I watch people of all ages struggle to step out from beneath the shadow of their upbringings, the burdens of the past, the sadness of the lessons they've learned on the road of life that have broken their hearts and undermined their belief in their capacity to live freely and whole-heartedly.

When a hug is all you have to give.

Be a love pharmacist: dispense hugs like medicine — they are!

~ Terri Guillemets ~

Year's ago, while sitting in a coffee shop by myself, a young woman sat at the table across from me and cried. I remember thinking at the time that I would like to get up and ask her if there was anything I could do. To offer a listening ear, a hug, some reassurance to help her through whatever the pain was she was feeling in that moment.

I did nothing.

What will you do with the wounds on your heart?

The wound is the place where the Light enters you.

~ Rumi ~

We all carry scars on our hearts. Those leftover renmants of the wounds and pains inflicted upon our beings when we were too young to understand or decipher the circumstances of life we didn’t understand or couldn’t make sense of.

Tears are the words our hearts can't speak freely

Tears are prayers too. They travel to God when we can't speak.

~Psalm 56:8 ~

We all have rules. Those internal constructs we keep to remind ourselves of what we need to do to be safe, to be okay, to do what we need to do.

Rules are good. As long as they don't inhibit our living beyond our comfort zones, breathing freely in the sea of life.

Be Willing to Do The Hard.

Fall seven times. Stand up eight.

~ Chinese Proverb ~

He was in his late forties, early fifties when I met him. Almost black eyes. A crooked smile that moved all the way up to his eyes to push the skin into deep, well-worn lines. He liked to laugh. A quiet laugh that shook his body. He spoke slowly. Measured his words as carefully as the sugar was measured out at the homeless shelter where we met. Sugar is gold in a homeless shelter. He used his sugar wisely.

Determined as a dandelion

Look in the mirror. That's your competition.

~ Author Unknown ~

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